What I Know About …Friendship

Friendship is such an amazing gift! There is no monetary value which can be placed on a high quality friendship which sustains, supports, reciprocates and nourishes your soul.

Today, I woke up in a beautiful hotel room with dear friends, who I only see once a year. We all live in different states, we’re all in different places within our family life, and careers and yet; when we come back together –  none of that matters. It’s as if no time has passed at all.

Interestingly enough, we don’t talk much in between our annual get-away, and that’s o.k.

I love these ladies just as much today as I did a year ago; and even five or ten years ago. I know they feel the same way toward me.

These women are just some of the friends who were there for me in the early years, when raising my babies tested my belief in my mothering skills. These women loved me in spite of not having a clean house or not having showered for over 24 hrs. These are the friends who brought me a Diet Coke and listened to me cry when I felt like I was sinking into the midst of a black hole.

Likewise, I was “that” friend for them as well. Open, available, non-judgemental, supportive and receptive. These are the qualities of true, genuine, dear, and enduring friendship.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize that it’s the quality of a friendship, and not the quantity of friends, which really matters most to me.  Let me explain.

Take a moment and stay with me as I draw a comparison, which I believe will really bless your life.

If I were to offer you a handful of pennies, or one shiny quarter, which would you choose. 

Initially, some of you might choose to have the handful of pennies. Having lots of coins in your hand may seem more exciting, because there are a lot of them. Think of it, you could sort them, stack them, count them one by one, and would probably feel abundant because you have so many pennies.

Now, what if I were to offer you only one shiny quarter. Physically, you don’t have the same amount of coins to hold in your hand, nor will it take up as much room in your wallet or your pocket. Additionally, you won’t be able to stack the one quarter in a variety of ways; it’s just one quarter. But, the value of the quarter brings a lot more worth into your life; because it’s a quarter!

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that the shiny quarters mean a lot more to me than the handfuls of pennies. I’ve not always felt this way, I did not always know this truth.

There were times in my life when I longed for lots and lots of pennies. However, as I’ve matured and learned more about myself, and have traveled the unexpected paths of life, I can see that it’s the beauty of a single quarter that serves me most abundantly.

I would rather have a few quarters to lean on then a mound of pennies any day. And while my coin jar may not appear to be very full, it’s the value of just a few quarters which makes my life rich, happy and so rewarding.

Here’s to both being, and receiving, in the amazing bond, and unique experiences of friendship.